out of words...

i am out of words.. let the pic speak for itself..

pic courtesy : Serenegurl's blog

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all in the name of democracy

Bridge blast kills 5 Indian police officers

Suspected communist rebels blew up a bridge in India's restive east Tuesday, killing five police officers who were escorting election officials. Officials from India's Election Commission are in the region to hold polls for the state legislature. The rebels, who claim to be inspired by Chinese revolutionary Mao Zedong, have been fighting for more than two decades in several eastern Indian states.

Plan to cut fuel prices sparks row

Bowing to in-house political pressure, the government is set to reduce motor fuel prices by Rs 5 a litre for petrol and Rs 3 for diesel after the current round of assembly polls are concluded. The announcement immediately led to howls of protest from BJP and UPA's former ally, the Left, who said this was a form of "appeasement'' when state elections were still in progress. BJP threatened to move the Election Commission on the matter. 

Grenade blast kills 1,injures 40 in Indian Kashmir

Suspected Islamic rebels attacked a pro-India party candidate with a hand grenade on Tuesday in the Indian portion of Kashmir, killing one of his supporters and wounding three others.The attack occurred while Ganaie was campaigning for elections in the Indian portion of Kashmir.This was the first attack by suspected rebels on a candidate after staggered voting for the state legislature began Nov. 17.

Violence rocks key India election

The beginning of a crucial round of state elections in India has been marred by outbreaks of violence. Maoist rebels have snatched voting machines, kidnapped polling officials and set off a landmine in the central Chattisgarh state.The police say that they have had gun battles with rebels in at least six places in the state. The election is the first in a series of votes that may determine whether the government calls an early general poll. 

solitude hurts? are you a loner?

The world today is running away from what is known as loneliness. They are scared of being alone. They complain that no one's listening. They put the good old words "Man came to this world alone, they go back alone" in banner. They contradict themselves many a times. Somehow I got a feel that many are confused about how they feel. 

So my questions are:

 

1.] Are you scared of Solitude?

2.] Have you felt or feel loneliness?

Keep the answer in mind before reading further. You don't have to publish those answers, its just for clarity of thought before the lecture :-) So now that you have asked yourself these questions and have got the answer, lets see what I have to say. Before I start let me confess : many words stated below [or the idea] are taken from publications, reference journals, and philosophical or medical websites. 

If you thought whats the difference between Solitude and Loneliness, these words are for you. The two terms are often used interchangeably. Externally, solitude and loneliness look a lot alike. Both are characterized by solitariness. But all resemblance ends at the surface. Loneliness is a negative state, marked by a sense of isolation. Solitude is the state of being alone without being lonely. It is a positive and constructive state of engagement with oneself. Solitude is something you choose. Loneliness is imposed on you by others. Solitude restores body and mind. Loneliness depletes them.

Lets look at both the terms from a wider angle.

Solitude is a state of seclusion or isolation, i.e. lack of contact with people or love. People may seek physical seclusion to remove distractions and make it easier to concentrate, reflect, or meditate.Emotional isolation is a term used to describe a state of isolation where the individual is emotionally isolated, but may have a well functioning social network.

Loneliness is a feeling where people experience a powerful surge of emptiness and Solitude. In their growth as individuals, humans start a separation process at birth, which continues with growing independence towards adulthood. To experience loneliness, however, can be to feel overwhelmed by an unbearable feeling of separateness at a profound level. This could give birth to feelings of abandonment, rejection, depression, insecurity, anxiety, hopelessness, unworthiness, meaninglessness, and resentment. If these feelings are prolonged they may  prevent the affected individual from developing healthy relationships and lifestyles. Loneliness in many a times a temporary consequence of divorce or the breakup or loss of any important long-term relationship. 

Loneliness can be summarized as falling into these categories:

Situational / circumstantial - loss of a relationship, move to a new city

Developmental - a need for intimacy balanced by a need for individualism

Internal - often including feelings of low self-esteem and vulnerability

Loneliness can evoke feelings of that 'everyone else' has friends, or that one is socially inadequate and socially unskilled. A lonely person may become convinced there is something wrong with him, or that no one understands his situation. Such a person may feel reluctant to attempt to change or to try new things. In extreme cases, a person may feel a sense of emptiness, which may become a state of clinical depression.

Now that you know the difference between Solitude and Loneliness, the cause of the emotion and the effect, ask those two questions again. I just wish your answer for the first and the second is NO. If its Yes, just realize the fact that your smile and your tears are a reflection of your strength and your fears! Know yourself and you would be happy.

Keshi, if you read this, know that I miss you. This blogger world miss you. Dont take too much time. Come back soon.

stolen tag!

alright guys.. ive never done a tag in my life. however, i managed to steal a tag from mads. So here it is.

Rule: You people have to fill this questionnaire in the comments section.

1. Who are you?
2. Are we friends?
3. Something I have and YOU want?
4. Give me a nickname and explain why you picked it.
5. Describe me in one word.
6. What was your first impression of me?
7. Do you still think that way about me now?
8. What reminds you of me?
9. If you could give me anything what would it be?
10. How well do you know me?
11. How do you see me in the future?
12. Ever wanted to tell me something but couldn’t?
13. Are you going to post this in your blog and see what I say about you?

For my answers to mads:

1. Who are you?

destiny to many who dared to include me in their life :-)

2. Are we friends?

not yet. but we sure are no enemies! 

3. Something I have and YOU want?

yet to find

4. Give me a nickname and explain why you picked it.

chulbuli! i dnt know, thts what came to my mind when i thought of a nickname!

5. Describe me in one word.

ill take two words : familiar stranger

6. What was your first impression of me?

Smart and Beautiful. Thats a merge of "Smart and Sexy" & "Bold and Beautiful" :-) 

7. Do you still think that way about me now?

of course 'cos i am still at the door step!

8. What reminds you of me?

it better be who! When ever i read Nidhi, I visit you and Peter :-)

9. If you could give me anything what would it be?

time

10. How well do you know me?

i dont even know your name! :-) 

11. How do you see me in the future?

you'd be laughing at me refering to this comment! nidhi, her family, peter, his family, other friends and family would join you along with your hubby and kids. My kids too would join the laugh and my wife would be jealous of me for the friends i made on this very blogsville! dream indeed :-)

12. Ever wanted to tell me something but couldn’t?

maybe a lot of things

13. Are you going to post this in your blog and see what I say about you?

i guess yes

you guys could post this on your blog [follow template] and I would comment my thoughts on you there :-)

not tagging anyone by name cos I really dont know who would have time for this :-) time is sure a luxury these days!

Troubleshoot your McAfee Security Centre

Caution: This is gona be a technical post. I thought of writing this cos I wasted close to 5 hours fixing this issue and I din find any docs online to help me with the steps.

Today my desktop greeted me with a warning msg. My McAfee icon was blinking red. It says "the detection signature is old" and when i try to fix it, it says " Update error. please re-install McAfee Virus Scan Plus". I took close to five hours to fix the issue. So this post helps people out there who has a McAfee account to fix their problem in minutes.

this post assumes that the date and time of your computer is correct

Nature of the problem:

Error Msg: the detection signature is old.

You try to "fix" the issue, but the button "fix" refuses to obey you.

You forcefully download updates, but you are greeted with more error msgs.

Remedy:

1.] Try fixing the issue with McAfee Virtual Technician. You could download it here.

if it does not work:

1.] Right click on the M icon near your system clock and select updates. 

If it throws another error msg as follows:

1.] Make sure you have registered yourself with McAfee online. This happens during first installation.

2.] Restart your computer. Ths makes sure no program sessions are running in the background.

3.] Go to "Add/Remove Programs" in your Control Panel and remove McAfee.

4.] Restart your computer.

5.] Download MCPR.exe from here. MCPR is McAfee Consumer Product Removal tool.

6.] Run MCPR and restart your computer.

7.] Login to your McAfee account and download DMSetup.

8.] Run DMSetup and update your detection files.

if the download pages throws you an error msg "page cannot be displayed" or "unresolved dns" or "broken link", it means that you need to edit your driver file.

1.] open command prompt [start->run->cmd]

2.] type in "drivers". hit enter

3.] open the folder named "etc"

4.] open the file named "hosts" using notepad.

5.] it would have lot of commented lines and "127.0.0.1       localhost" towards the end of the file.

6.] Below "127.0.0.1       localhost" add the following =>

128.241.218.66  download.mcafee.com

128.241.218.75  download.mcafee.com

7.] save and close the file.

8.] flush your dns addresses and renew your ip.

9.] you are good to go!

hope these would help all those who uses McAfee Security Centre.

were are you?

i tried to sleep. i felt all alone. darkness all around me.

How I wish I had some one near, who would kiss my forehead and heal all my pains. Some one who would hold my hands and show me the world. Some one whose smile would take away my worries. Some one whose warmth would make me sweat. A kid, a friend, a philosopher, a lover, a cook, a financial adviser - all in one. A support which I really need. Some one who make me realize my inner self. The one who would prove that I was incomplete all this while. My inspiration, my support. I wish you were here today. I need your warm hug!

i tried to sleep. i felt all alone. darkness all around me.

her comment brought grace to my words. thnx Sen.your words are beautiful :

It is darkest before the dawn,

This is known to every doe and fawn,

Hang in there, for god has a plan

For the whole universe and above all for man!

This I believe in for his love is true...

My wish is, may all your dreams come true!!!

- sen

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transformations

Disclaimer: The images used are obtained from google images. If any of the image used breaches any copyrights, kindly let me know and the image would be promptly changed.

Big wide eyes. We see this world with curiosity. Vibrant colors, fun and excitement around us. Strangers fight for our attention. Dad's day long tensions are relieved on a glimpse of our smile. At times he make faces! He is definitely jealous 'cos mom gives more attention to us. Days were short and nights were long. Everyone were at our disposal They would do anything just to see us smile!

We got a new home called school. Our day starts with a fight over breakfast and milk. Mom transforms to a superwoman with eight arms and legs => she cooks, cleans, helps us with our bathe, uniforms, lunch boxes, homeworks, helps dad with the same other than homeworks :) helps herself, all in no time! Morning bells, inspections, prayers - God knows if I really meant what I prayed! "Oh God, father of mankind..." oops I forgot the prayer! Wait for the intervals always seemed long! Moral Science class was the best 'cos our teacher used to tell us stories. Highly skilled games like "book cricket", "name-place-animal-thing", "pen fight"made us busy all day. During intervals we ran and ran and ran until our white shirts became either brown with all the mud in the ground or red with our own blood! The best days in our life - energy was at its fullest and we din meet ego - not then!

 

Career - One word which screwed our happiness. Life became more or less mechanical. We woke up early morning, went to tuition, went to school/college, studied and slept. We were surrounded with books - text books, note books, guides, model test papers, answer keys and what not. Dad and mom had nothing else to talk. Suddenly they were interested in the first rank holder of the class. Comparisons were done with the girl next door.Saddest part => our neighbour always has more marks than us! How we long to go back to our childhood, to play in the rain, to fight for a coffee bite, to just be a child!

Definition of friendship changes. Our childhood friend with whom we used to roll on mud, who shared our laughter, who was one in the family, suddenly looks "gorgeous", "handsome" or simply put "hot"! Infatuation plays her magic on us. "Love" is the keyword. Status "Single" is considered as sin. Love is often interpreted as lust and romance as sex. Imaginations and creativity finds new heights. A kiss or a hug becomes status of pride. Oh you thought its childish? We call it generation gap! You still live in 16th century, we are old enough to talk about sex!

Love is born. The world seems to be a better place to be in. You love the raindrops, the rainbow, slow music tracks and even humming of birds. You blush when he gives you a compliment. Suddenly you feel there is someone in this world for you. All these days you were alone, waiting for this very one! Why din he/she meet me earlier? Possessiveness and love are twin sisters. Ego and possessiveness are best friends. Ego admires fight and their relationship gives birth to pain. Maybe that's why love and pain have more or less same market share! Even if love brings in pain at times, trust me, love is magical. The very thought of having someone whom you could hug in both smiles and tears is magical. Silence shared is pure. The very touch of your love could heal your pain. Don't believe me? Experience it. One word of caution for all those who are expecting to experience love soon => if you start hating someone you love, your worst enemy would seem more friendly! its the risk attached with love. Ask me, its worth taking the risk. If you succeed, there is nothing like it. If you fail, you learn a lot. Its a win-win situation. You either become a lover or a philosopher :-)

Alright guys, i lived till here. You and I grow together. Pay regular visits. Maybe after ten years I would consider writing about family, children and responsibilities under the header "transformations -2"